kids

i wanted to blog about this last week but it slipped my mind...

Last saturday was mad-day. Actually every saturday is coz i have tuition with a bunch of monsters but last saturday was really bad.

Saturday class is very stressful as there is this girl in class whose parents complained that cannot learn coz the class is very noisy and the teacher dun teach den always give us work to do in class. I give them work to do in class coz when there worksheets leave the centreu, they nv make it back again. Either that or its nv do. SO i am very scared to give them homework den i always let them do in class. Now here's another problem, they are so noisy and always gossip den nv do work. Last Saturday i gave them like 6 super simple questions to finish and they keep taking longer and longer to finish. I was already very stressed over my 208 paper den i was not in a good mood. Den they still test my patience. A student even stood on the chair and when i shout at him to get down he screamed back at me. Den when i got him to stand outside, he even scold me si san ba. OMG.. what's the world coming to? Kids have totally no manners nowadays.

I jus found out this friday that the boy had a broken family den the dad dotes on him a lot. I think he is probably feeling very lost and thus explains his behaviour. But i think the parents are at fault too. My cousins' parents are divorced when they were quite young too but they do not seem to have such behaviour problems. And my students are about the same age as some of my cousins but somehow they are so different. They made me realised that my cousins are SOOOOOO well-behaved. They make my cousins look like angels.

And during today's class, sigh.. i got them to do a test.. den in the end.. they took so long to finish as usual... But they are more well-behaved today except for the boys. And i realised that they keep using vulgarities. actually its not really vulgaries but very indecent words like kao bei kao bu ( cry father cry mother in hokkien, meant to describe someone very naggy or noisy). They do not even know the meaning of what they are saying and they are using it like nothing. They even tell me that their parents say them at home. OMG... parents...

Sigh.. actually.. sometimes its not the teachers do not want to teach or cannot teach.. but the first education always begin at home. Its the place which will mould you into the future person. I am very grateful to my family. We are a very strict family and they do not condone mis-conducts. And thanks to my dad, i know that i cannot be like him. He always scold vulgarities but i guess its not his fault coz its the culture plus the lack of education. But my dad is a very nice person and i inherited my bad temper from him. My aunts also keep telling us that we cannot be like out dad coz we are educated and stuff. I guess not every kid is as sensible as me and they are the ones who need guidance from the parents or the teachers.

Seriously, i think that family influence is very important. Parents should always take it upon themselves to educated their children, especially on basics like manners and respect. They cannot always depend on the teacher one...

I sincerely hope i can help these kids out.. they are a nice bunch of kids but if no one helps them.. they are going to spoil their own future...

back to the old one

i have decided to change my blog back to the old one.. the new one can only be a picture.. meaning zhong ka bu zhong yong...

i still think my old one is the best.. i am going to look for a nice one after my exams..

3 more days to freedom!!

Singapore Romance

Read this article.. i thought it was quite interesting.. no idea how true the facts are.. but i think it did brought out a general trend...

Measured by size of flowers lovers sent today, romance in Singapore is flying, but unfortunately it isn't. By Seah Chiang Nee - Feb 13, 2005

EDUCATED and financially independent, the new Singaporean woman is running into a wall of male traditions that is leaving some holes in their relationship, including marriage. The trend had been building up over a couple of decades. In few other countries have women made larger strides in education and careers than in Singapore. During the past few decades they have caught up with, and even overtaken, men in fields they had once dominated.

In university, women still outnumber men 55-45 with many moving strongly into subjects like media, mathematics, law and engineering, among others. Recently girls won seven of the top 11 awards for A-level Physics, which had long been a boys' domain. Island-wide, women have moved into the highest ranks of the corporate world and commanded artillery units or police divisions, as well as trained jetfighter pilots. Ten women, aged 20-40, are planning to climb Mount Everest. In short, the new female is able, confident and more than holding up half the heavens, but not getting equal success in their relationship with men.

This is running smack into a traditional male value of wanting to be seen wearing the pants, causing a growing "incompatibility". Better education has also led to the woman being perceived as too ambitious, self-centred and materialistic, not qualities that promote romance. As a consequence, more men are choosing their brides from abroad, especially from China, Vietnam and most of all Malaysia, where historical links remain strong.

The women's relentless pursuit of a career had come at the expense of learning to do simple household chores like cooking, ironing or looking after babies. "If you want to marry a Singapore girl you must be prepared to eat at hawker centres for life," one male cynic said.

A marriage agency owner told a radio interviewer how some of the girls had, on the first date, plied the men with questions like: What is your degree and earnings? Do you own a condo? "And they're surprised when they didn't get a second date," she said. Others find them picky, untrusting and calculative towards love and marriage.

Results of recently released research have found that one in five Singaporean wives is hiding her assets from her husband for fear that he will squander them or in case the marriage fails. This 20% here compares with France (7.2%), USA (7.6%), Brazil (9%), Romania (12%) and Britain (16.8%). But there are more hoarders in Japan (38%), Saudi Arabia (32%) and China (21%). It doesn't inspire trust. Another sign is the increasing number of cases when a private detective is hired to check on the spouse.

Pre-marital contracts are also becoming more common among people who want to keep their assets out of their spouse's reach in any divorce. Almost six out of 10 women say in a survey that they are not submissive, while two-thirds believe they could live without men. The changing female attitude is, of course, only half the cause. The other is the man sticking to a traditional view that it is his right as head to leave the babies and household work to his working wife. One in two women here have a job.

The social impact is a growing number of single women, especially university graduates. A growing minority is marrying Westerners. This has prompted a newspaper reader to urge her well-educated peers to revisit some the traditional feminine traits. Her letter followed reports that more Singaporeans, including young professional males, were turning abroad for brides. She said she had worked in Vietnam and found the girls there feminine, their speech melodious. "They work hard without complaining, carrying loads of cloth and vegetables in the market stalls and food places. Simple, gentle and hardworking, it's hard not to fall in love with them," she added. As for the Malaysian ladies, she finds them "neither loud nor argumentative, (but) pander to the boys' needs. Not as doormats, but as cheerful assistants, who see it as their obligation to help their men without expecting anything in return. "Not that they are stupid - oh, no, the Malaysian girls I know are smart and hardworking, with careers of their own. "But when it comes to matters of the heart, they play the docile, giggly girlfriend with as much aplomb as their Vietnamese counterparts. Again, it's easy to see where their attraction lies."

In contrast, the Singapore girl is twice as likely as her Malaysian or Vietnamese counterpart to stride away in a huff or throw water in the male's face or hold a public screaming or crying fit. "The Singapore girl debates and argues impassionedly. She wants to win at all costs and treats her love conquests like those fought in the office arena. She may be pretty, yes, smart, yes, but, oh, so demanding." The Singapore girl, in short, is a challenge to love, she added. Although she may, at the end of the day, be a supportive and faithful spouse, the barbs hiding her soft interior are daunting to the suitor. "She is materialistic, and loves being so. Shopping is a major hobby, and looking good is absolutely essential. The man is but another accessory, a helper, chauffeur, bag carrier."

There are, however, some 200,000 men who have a poor education and a low salary. Their prospect of marrying a Singapore girl is slim. One emotional man said online: "I'm fed up with life. Can't even find a date let alone a wife." For him and the rest, salvation lies in Vietnam or China.

new look

yeah!! i changed my blog skin today.. haha... like this new look...

i love the me 2 you bear ( got special significance one)..

but i find it a bit too cluttered.. wait till i got time den i fine tune it a bit...

do give me comments k?

continue visiting me!!

back into civilisation

sigh... back into civilisation for a while.. every weekend i am forced back to civilisation thanks to tuition...

was hermit since last sunday... preparing for 2 papers this week..

immunology was okay.. at least i dun think i will do too badly...

but virology sucks..

i admit i haven been doing a lot of work.. like nv do tut den sleep in class n stuff.. BUT i do that for every module loh.. no diff.. but i very hardworking got go n print notes leh.. from the library loh.. all the stupid reading materials.. its a hell lot of papers loh. n money...

and i tot i prepared well for the paper.. i din spend long.. only like 2 days? or 1.5.. considering my slacking time n tuition... but i followed the lecture notes ( tt's wat he said.. coz there was a lot to cover den he say he only give those found in the lecture).. den i diligently try to read some of the relevant materials when i dun understand his lectures.. on please.. his lecture notes only got cartoons loh.. n he considered something with 3 lines as too much words...

and today's paper he keep asking us to draw... i mean he nv give choice leh.. he says explain with a diagram... and he expect me to know the genome structure for the virus????? mad.... n luckily i heng decided to read extra stuff from the notes or else i think i die until even more ugly....

i do until qn 20 of mcq i already very sian n i m not even halfway thru the paper.. finish 40 mcq i half sian liao.. i start structure got even more sian.. 8 choose 6 den i only know how to ans like half of every qn?? only got 1 qn i know how to ans everything... by process of elimination.. no choice liao...i really write until i want to cry.. cant wait for the paper to finish.. the moment i got out.. i really cried.. shocked myself n my friend...

sigh........ i seriously hope i dun get my first C... i will curse william chen if that happens.. i hope he dun teach anymore.. please dun harm more students.. sigh....

i jus found this in my computer... it was such nice memory of the class. Jingwei, the guy who passed away is in the second row, first person from the left (he's the only guy in the row). He was such a cute boy.. heard that he became very handsome.. but i wun get the chance to see liao.. 

i got 43

Are U sexy enuf?

Message: GET A PIECE OF PAPER AND NUMBER IT 1-11(NO CHEATING)

SEE YOUR RESULTS AT THE END OF THE TEST.

WHEN YOU SEND IT ON PUT YOURSCORE INTHE SUBJECT BA

1. WHAT SHADE OF HAIR DO YOU HAVE?
a) Dark
b) Light

2. OUT ON A DATE WOULD YOU WANTTO:
a) Go to a party?
b) Go out to eat?

3. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE COLOROUT OF:
a) Baby-Pink
b) Yellow
c) Baby-Blue
d) Turquoise

4. PICK YOUR FAVOURITE HOBBY OUTOF:
a) Surfing
b) Skate-Boarding
c) Skiing

5. IF YOU COULD PICK A STORE OUT OF THE FOLLOWING, WHICH WOULD ITBE?
a) Louie Vuitton
b) coach
c) againt all odds

6. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE PLACE OUT OFTHE FOLLOWING?
a) hawaii
b) London
c) florida

7. IN THE SUMMER WOULD YOU RATHER GO TO:
a) The Beach?
b) Somewhere Cooler?

8. WHAT IS YOUR BIRTHDAY MONTH?
a) January
b) February
c) March
d) April
e) May
f) June
g) July
h) August
i) September
j) October
k) November
l) December

9. WOULD YOU RATHER:
a) Chill at home
b) Go out with friends10.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITEINSTRUMENTOUT OF:
a) Guitar
b) Bass guitar
c) Drums
d) The Triangle

11) NAME A PERSON OF THEOPPOSITE SEX


====NOW MAKE A WISH!====

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*******!!!!!*STOP*!!!!!*******

ANSWERS**
1.a- dark= sexy [5points]
b- light = sweet [2 points]

2.a- go to a party = playful [2 points]
b. go out to eat = romantic [5 points]

3.a- baby-pink = cute [2]
b- yellow = loud [3]
c-baby-blue = cool [5]
d. turquoise = sexy [5]

4.a- surfing = active [2]
b- skateboarding = determined [2]
c- skiing = daring [5]

5.a) Louie Vuitton=tasteful[7]
b) coach=laid back[2]
c) againt all odds=sytlish[5]

6.a) hawaii =you like being around people[2]
b) London= You are quiet, and like thecold [2]
c) florida= You like to party! [5]

7.a- beach = tan, likes the sun [5]
b- somewhere cooler = pale and original[2]

8.a) January = popular [5]
b) February = lovely [2]
c) March = loud [2]
d) April = playful [5]
e) May =happy [5]
f) june = chills a lot[5]
g) July = smooth [2]
h)August = fun [5]
i) September = quiet [2]
j)October =out-going [2]
k) November = pimpin' it [5]
l)December = warm [2]

9.a- home = quiet, romantic [5]
b- go out with friends =crazy [5]

10.a- guitar = eye-catching [5]
b- bass-guitar = mellow [2]
c- Drums = loud [2]
d- Triangle = crazy [5]

11. This person will fall in love with you!

SCORES!!!!
UP TO 20 = Not so Sexy
21-35 = Rather sexy
36+ = Too Sexy for this Test!!!!

NOW REPOST THIS IN THE NEXT 2MINUTES AND YOU WILL HAVE GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR CRUSH! MAKE SURE YOU WRITE YOUR SCORE IN THE SUBJECT

rest in peace

my dear turtle of 5 years left us today...

actually he probably left us a while liao but i jus realised it today... i usually dun check on him everyday... my mum will feed him vege den i change his water once every few days. The last time i changed water for him was last friday. That time i already realised that he was not feeling very well liao. He was so tired and lazy den he keep flopping his head on the basin... but me, as his silly owner, din realised anything was wrong and thought that he jus dun like the vege that my mum gave him... so i nv suspect anything...

oh my.... sigh..... i should have realised tt something was wrong coz he usually eat that particular vege one... oh my.... =(

life

I jus received a shocking news today. While i was busy watching my juniors compete yesterday(Saturday), my friend met with a car accident and passed away.

He was a lower secondary classmate. We were not very close but i had fond memories of him as a classmate. He used to be a short short cute cute boy. He grew up of course but very long haven met him. Last time he very funny one but a bit rebellious. I still rmb how he broke the classroom's back door ,after they've installed projectors in all the classrooms, so that we can enter when we reach as the servants only open the classrooms at around 7am.

But now, he's no longer around. Gone.. jus like that. He had just gotten his license and was supposed to enter NUS this coming semester. Sigh..

Really gotta treasure life. I have already heard of many ppl who had left us since the beginning of this year. Let's pray hard for everyone. Bless you....

blog??

i am beginning to feel like ailing.

10 years dun blog.

i have a lot to say.

but dunno start from where.

shall talk another time.

=In Passing=

got this from a friend... quite nice..

=In Passing=

In passing
I met you strangely
as you just entered and I left
as a wanderer searching for you
In passing
I found you
and you were so fascinating
and devastatingly beautiful
In passing
I fell in love again
with you my life began anew
with the frenzy of a thunderstorm
In passing
I wrote blindly
to you so far away from me
to draw you closer like a ghost
In passing
I dreamt madly
of you sweetly in the darkness
of the night kissing me silently
In passing
I told you my feelings
for you were there as I waited
for something to happen to me
In passing
I glimpsed the joy
in you I might find new faith
in this meaningless life we have
In passing
I was so so sad
but you were there my friend
but I knew I could never stay
In passing
I came to rest
where you will never find
where clouds drift lazily by
In passing.

birthday party

i went to my 3rd 21st birthday party yesterday night. Very little right? considering the fact that nearly everyone i know are going to celebrate their birthday this year. It either means

1. i m so unpopular that ppl do not want to invite me.
2.My friends have decided to be unpopular and dun want to celebrate.

3. I am going to go broke at the end of the year coz that's when all the birthdays start coming in.

Anyway, this friend is from my NJ class one. Very long nv see him liao. Ever since i left NJ, i haven been meeting him. At the party yesterday, i managed to meet quite number of NJ classmates whom i have not met for a very very very long time. It felt so right. I dunno why, but i always feel very in place when even i am hanging out with these bunch of ppl. Some of whom are not even classmates with me before. But we jus happen to be able to click together. Make me wonder wat's wrong now?..

Anyway, this friend of mine had a very creative party. He got all of us messed up into different tables and we played games. Supposed to answer questions on him, his house and some general ones. Quite fun and we had fun mixing and interacting with the ppl in my group even thou most of us do not each other before hand. Quite interesting coz you get to know his other friends and get to know him better thru all the questions. Maybe i can try something like that for my party. But mine might be quite big coz i am probably going to invite many ppl. Should think of wat to do.

But before i do that.. i should get back to my lab reports...ARGH...

nerd

i feel so nerd... rushing so many reports... anyway.. i found this at a friend's blog and i decided to try.. interesting..

school again

argh!!!!!!!!! why is it so unfair.. we do the prac until so late trying to figure out all the stuff and crack our brains over it and the second group only have to follow wat we've already tested for them and get to copy our answers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wth... damn the school.. dunno wat they all are doing... i am not going to share my results.. its mine!!!!

Humph.. i know i am being selfish but its not fair loh.. We do all the work den they copy????? what is this???? why cant they just plan the stuff properly? I know that last week we used up their reagents so they dun have enough den gotta use our results.. this one i understand. This week.. they dun have enough again?? and they have to copy our results again???!!!??? But the problem is.. yesterday we did not seem to have asked for extra reagents.. most ppl have enough. Even i had enough to repeat my experiments. So why is it that there is not enough reagents again??? WTH!!

school?

very long nv blog liao.. jus tot that i should post something... recently i dunno wat's wrong with me.. i very anti social.. so stressed over something which i dun even know is wat. most probably school and all the lab reports and rubbish lah..

Den i not only anti-social.. i am becoming very mean. I seem to dun like something abt ppl who are around me. Anyone talk to me abt something in school i can jus find something to bu shuang abt. I nv tell anyone but i jus sub-consciously criticise that person.. I am so horribly mean. I think i am jus doing this to make myself feel better.

Exams are coming.. and i haven really understood wat is going on in class. I have not been doing a lot of tut this semester and my CA so poor.. My friend got A den i got C... =(.. very sad leh... sigh.... dunno wat to do abt it.. i dun like to do homework with my friends.. i like to do things as and when i feel like it. Whenever we have longer breaks, they will do homework den if i dun feel like doing then, i get pissed off by wat they are all doing den i dun feel like doing even after that.

Den recently a friend's present made me very bu shuang with a friend. I have another friend A, who knows this friend,B, too so she suggest that we get a present together. I dun mind since we can get a better present for her plus we dunno wat to buy too. Den when i asked my friends, C said that we got so many ppl can get her something den each pay abt 20. i was thinkg that its so expensive loh.. she mad ah.. think that everyone will want to spend so much money on HER good friend.. Yes, we are friends. In fact, i knew that gal since sec 1.. but even though we are in the same clique.. you are not on equal terms with everyone mah. There has got to be someone that you are closer to. Den i was trying to explain this concept to C and she dun understand why would us not be willing to spend the money when we are together everyday and are suppposed to be "good friends". I dun mind the money but wat i am bu shuang abt is tt C is a very thrifty person( i wun say niao k?) so whenever we buy present for others friends, the budget is always $5 each. Den now she willingly to pay $20 coz its for her good friend. I feel like she is trying to get her something at the expense of us. I might be too sensitive or it could be that i am too stressed so i get very bu shuang easily abt things.. Luckily my other friends tot that 20 was too ex. Anyway, another friend D says that its better for us to get our own present. BUT we dun even know at to get loh!! sigh.. den if we share we can get a good present den each dun have to pay so much. I dun care liao lah.. they shall go n think of wat to buy den i pay only.

And talking abt D, i bu shuang her quite a long while ago. I dunno wat triggered it oso.. but we have been taking some classes together den somehow , as we get to spend more time together, i started to think that she's very fake. Sometimes when she talks, i somehow feel that there is always hidden meanings behind wat she's saying and sometimes she ask questions like jus to create conversation and give me a feeling like she's simply trying to get close to you. Recently i have noticed that she's more hardworking and keeps getting close to ppl with good results... The more i see, the more turn off i get... So fake...........

Sigh... now can understand how come i am not happy here. School not fufilling and social life so full of grumbles.. sigh....................

my beautiful saturday afternoon

It was a pretty satuday afternoon. Bright and sunny and got no tuition!! wah... so good...

BUT BUT BUT... got a com lab.. so i had to go back to schoo.. But its jus as well so i can submit my long dued 208 lab report... Supposed to be due on friday but i only handed in on saturday. Luckily the box is still around or i die liao..

Hmm.. den we started the lab with a super informative and funny video by my dear prof.. but the subsequent lab was hell.. real hell.. the first com lab that took me even longer than my wet lab. I was in the com lab for abount 5 hours? Wah.. do until i headache..Den halfway thru the lab, my friends and me were so hungry that we decided to go for lunch first then continue. So poor thing... can a got nothing except for Mac. So i had my long wanted to try chicken foldover finally

So sian.. what a way to spend a beautiful saturday afternoon. In school having Mac for lunch at 2 pm!! Sigh...

Luckily i had a better part of the evening coz it was my brother's birthday and we had great food.. So fattening but its so nice. Got pasta, pizza, curry chicken and ice cream cake.. Yummy....

beginning of school

first week of school.. no time to post anything.. nothing much.. except that i have been slack as usual.. looking forward to my first weekend...

tmr got 208 lab report.. going back to mug...

class gathering on saturday

i cant believe i forgot to post this! This is impt.. gotta share with you guys. haha

On saturday, 19 feb 05, i had the first and probably the only class gathering this year for 4D'2000. This is a tradition and a must.. we always meet during new year to lao yu sheng and everyone will try their best to make it coz our class only gather once a year. This year we had the yu sheng at Wei Liang's house coz we tot that we should have a change in location since we always meet at JEC.. pretty boring..

Well.. the reason we always meet at JEC is that we have always been buying our yu sheng from the noodles house there. Since sec 4. Like Liyong said, our goal is to out-live that restaurant. (",) Anyway, the turnout this year was pretty good coz i managed to contact some of the PRCs and they helped to get other PRCs for the gathering. Felt so good. So in all, we have around 20 people? out of 31 ppl with 5 people not in singapore. So basically only 6 who are in singapore cannot make it. Hope to see them at the next gathering.

We had dinner (compliments of Wei Liang's mum who refused to let us help and refused to take our money). Its a very nice bee hoon, chicken wings and pizza which we ordered. And some jelly home-made by wei liang's mum and water melon and of course, our yu sheng. A very heart-warming gathering. During dinner, we took a lot of photos. still waiting for them to send it to me den i can show everyone. After dinner, we had too much drinks left that we decided to play zhong ji mi ma to finish the drink. It was so funny. Reminds me of last time in sec 4 when my class like to go to the bubble tea house to drink bubble tea and to play truth or dare.

After the game, we went up to wei liang's house and chatted a little while more. And we started talking about the sec sch days and our class chalets. Really missed those days! And after a little discussion, we decided to have another class chalet! somewhere in mid may. Looking forward to that day..

Overall, the night had a great night with great pals and good hosts (wei liang's dad even gave hong bao).

But.. in contrast.. 01S7A's class visit to the teacher's house had been horrible.. sigh.. only 3 pathetic ppl.. felt so paiseh when we got to the teachers' house. Mrs Wang even ordered pizza for us. Maybe my class should have less gathering den ppl will treasure the gatherings jus like my sec 4 class. And i can predict that less n less ppl are going to come for class gathering coz the guys are starting school and quite a number of them are flying overseas. In fact, already 4 are gone and a couple more are going away soon. That's the problem with being in a high-flyer school. Friends dun stay.. so sad..

STOP IRRITATING ME!!!

STOP ASKING ME TO GO AND SEE A DOCTOR AND STOP ASKING ME WHAT'S WRONG WITH MY LEG AND MY FACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i am sick of it!!!! utterly sick!!!!!! i have a lot of scars on my face and my legs and i am already very vexed!!! quit asking me what's wrong and ask me to see doctor. If i know what's wrong.. i wun be having these scars liao..can you guys dun be so dumb?? and i hate to see doctors so stop asking to go to the doc's.. plus i have already been to the doctor for my face so STOP STOP STOP irritating me!!!!

I am sick of all the scars so stop reminding me of it. If i hear 1 more.. just 1 more person who ask me what's wrong.. i am going to switch to wearing long skirts, pants and long sleeve shirts...

quote

Truth does not become more true by virtue of the fact that the entire world agrees with it, nor less so even if the whole world disagrees with it.

-Maimonides

I like this... it simply means that we should follow our heart. What others think is wrong might not turn out to be wrong in the end..