equality of the sexes?

okay.. this is a backdated post... might be a bit incoherent oso but i jus typed whatever tt came to my mind. I felt like i was doing a GP essay....

i had a chat with my darling today. I am so happy that we can finally have a proper conversation without quarrelling. Missed him so much after spending one weekend together. 3 days are not enough to make up for all that we have missed while we're busy with our own lives and fighting with each other.

anyway, i found a particular part of our conversation pretty interesting. It started off by me saying that i din realised that there was a default to the distribution of our CPF should we meet with any mishap even without a nomination. Then he told me something very interesting... He said that any nominations that a guy made before marriage will automatically be revolted and invalid after marriage. Even the will will be considered void. And should a divorce happen, insurance nominations cannot be changed. This might not be the actual case but its what i heard from him. According to him, this is to protect the woman and the children, if any, should anything happen. Well, then we went into an in-depth discussion of whether this is fair or necessary. And he mentioned that he was quite pissed about this talk show where a lady mentioned that if we really want equality, guys should help out with housework but he felt that for equality, such rules protecting the women should be changed first.

I am not a feminist but i do believe in equality of the sexes. Not all kinds of equalities though coz i still believe that guys should open doors for girls and be a gentleman. hehe.. but i do believe strongly in the equality of oppportunities. I get very pissed when girls get deprived of a place in something just because we are assumed to be unable to perform the task. On the other hand, i still believe that women have our role in the family as the homemaker. I think it will be so nice to provide the one we love with a nice home and a hot dinner to return to. BUT I am not gg to stay at home and be a housewife. Kill me man... I do not mind if my husband offers to help out but on the other hand, he cannot take me for granted and expects me to do everything. I will scream!! I guess the ideal situation if the workload is split between the couple. But nothing is perfect right?

Even though the situation in the society is changing, women are getting more educated and less likely to depend entirely on their husband financially since most would be drawing their own salary, and most of the couples now split houseworks and stuff, there are still a minority of the women population who gave up their own life after marriage and devote to being a homemaker. If there was real equality and the law protecting the women was scraped, whatever is going to happen to those women? We can never get 100% of everything. We can ask for more equality but never 100% equality. Being an extremist is not healthy.. hehe.. that's why i always like to sit on the fence. I think a little of this and a little of that...

Anyway.. what's the moral of the story? Women should always keep their own money. NEVER hand over all ur money to the man. Its a good advice wor.. and its something that even my aunts and my mum tell me. We can never depend on anyone else but ourselves. So yar.. girls, do take care of yourself...